04-08-2017, 03:57 PM
Whether it's relationships with other people, or relationships with pets...
It's all codependency.
Loneliness is a personal problem...
If you're lonely, it's not because you're alone, it's because you can't stand being with yourself.
And if you can't stand being with yourself, there's probably a reason for that. Get to the bottom of what it is... fix it.
Did somebody abuse you and make you feel unworthy? Is that why you can't handle being alone with yourself? Uncover the trauma and heal from it.
You're gonna have a hard and shitty time in life if you can't be alone with yourself. And no one really wants to put up with somebody who can't even handle being alone.
Be careful using animals (pets) as emotional dumpsters too. You end up making them just as fearful and neurotic as you are... do you think that's fair?
People love to share their out of control fears and anxieties with other people and see if they can make them feel the same way, because this reaffirms and justifies the way they feel... therefore eliminates the need to change.
Good luck avoiding these kind of people...
Being alone, being ABLE to be alone, is great, but eventually you do have to mingle with other people. And chances are all you're really going to run into is a bunch of weird fucked up neurotic mentally disturbed needy people. So you have to RECOGNIZE these qualities surrounding these people. If you consciously recognize it, it can't affect you. All it can do is be a reminder and an annoyance... something that exemplifies "how not to live" and "what not to do".
It is 100% necessary to be ABLE to be alone with yourself, happily, comfortably and peacefully. If you aren't able to achieve this... you will never be at peace within yourself, and you'll never be able to 'shake that feeling'. The feeling that causes anxiety and fear and dread. So if there's work you need to do in order to be successfully alone with yourself, get started now and stop wasting time.
It's all codependency.
Loneliness is a personal problem...
If you're lonely, it's not because you're alone, it's because you can't stand being with yourself.
And if you can't stand being with yourself, there's probably a reason for that. Get to the bottom of what it is... fix it.
Did somebody abuse you and make you feel unworthy? Is that why you can't handle being alone with yourself? Uncover the trauma and heal from it.
You're gonna have a hard and shitty time in life if you can't be alone with yourself. And no one really wants to put up with somebody who can't even handle being alone.
Be careful using animals (pets) as emotional dumpsters too. You end up making them just as fearful and neurotic as you are... do you think that's fair?
People love to share their out of control fears and anxieties with other people and see if they can make them feel the same way, because this reaffirms and justifies the way they feel... therefore eliminates the need to change.
Good luck avoiding these kind of people...
Being alone, being ABLE to be alone, is great, but eventually you do have to mingle with other people. And chances are all you're really going to run into is a bunch of weird fucked up neurotic mentally disturbed needy people. So you have to RECOGNIZE these qualities surrounding these people. If you consciously recognize it, it can't affect you. All it can do is be a reminder and an annoyance... something that exemplifies "how not to live" and "what not to do".
It is 100% necessary to be ABLE to be alone with yourself, happily, comfortably and peacefully. If you aren't able to achieve this... you will never be at peace within yourself, and you'll never be able to 'shake that feeling'. The feeling that causes anxiety and fear and dread. So if there's work you need to do in order to be successfully alone with yourself, get started now and stop wasting time.