11-05-2018, 11:06 PM
So I saw this crap in my Recommended area on YouTube and I decided to check it out.
Right off the bat, she says they were married for 31 years, and the last 17 years were "verbally abusive"...
So they were married for 13 or so years before things turned sour. Now my theory about this always is, did they have children during that time? If so, both of them were probably just done with each other. Once the reproducing is out of the way, there's really not much left between two people... that's my opinion. If there is, it's kind of miraculous. I'm sorry, I know it sounds cold, but that really is just the truth. It all relates back to the caveman days and the fact that we used to care for children as a community, rather than as units of 2 people, or less. Women were meant to go on and reproduce with more people once they were able to, and men were meant to go spread around their seed. The physical attraction between two people, by nature, is only meant for the purpose of reproduction, and aside from that, there really is no purpose.
The other side of the coin is if they DID NOT reproduce during that 13 year timeframe. If they were childless, with this woman being in her early 40s (after 13 years of marriage) then it was a dead end street... with no hope of reproducing (EVER), there was simply no reason to be together on any level whatsoever and this was felt subconsciously by both parties.
Once a romantic relationship goes sour and becomes abusive, it is DEAD. It is over. There is ABSOLUTELY NOTHING that can change that. Nor should there be. It simply ran its course... and it's time to let go. Furthermore, there are absolutely no valid excuses to remain in the situation... not "for the children", not for the assets, not for anything.
With all that said... I am 0:15 into the video. Let's see if anything she has to share with us will change my perspective on this.
0:23 she states that she was "homesick" at the time he "suddenly" became "verbally abusive" for seemingly no reason. My guess is she was sitting there with a shitty look on her face and he just couldn't fucking take it anymore. Again, let's see if she can change my mind.
0:40 okay, well "screaming" in the restaurant is lame and gay and most certainly unacceptable behavior. But aside from that, he was probably right. She probably was being a selfish bitch. I mean, let's be honest.
So I will say right now... there's no excuse (FOR EITHER PARTY) for staying in a relationship that had turned so horribly sour. If you're unhappy in a relationship, or ANY situation, you have to CHANGE IT. Period. End of story. You have a PLAN, you take ACTION, and you CHANGE IT. If you don't, then you (whether you will ever admit it or not) enjoy your hellish situation, accept it as something you deserve, and you are addicted to it.
0:48 so her response was to immediately start to cry. Well, if somebody suddenly for "no apparent reason" blew up at me in a RESTAURANT in front of a bunch of people and started "screaming"... I'd be getting up and leaving immediately in order to escape the CRAZY PERSON. But clearly, there was something on the verge in her which was READY to explode in its own way... her response to his behavior suggests that she was indeed (she'd never admit it) soliciting some type of response out of him which would validate her then releasing her pent up feelings.
TBH, the way this lady's eyes move suggests something ain't quite right with her upstairs, if you catch my drift. Lil weird.
1:20 sounds like she belittled his explanation that he was 'stressed'... which he probably was. Probably insurmountably stressed, and she wasn't being understanding at all. Sounds like he totally hated where they moved to, simply for his career, which he probably totally hated too. So add it all up... an aging wife, from the sound of it no kids, having to relocate to a place you hate for a job you hate. I mean yeah, that sounds like enough to make anyone bitter.
If he was only VERBALLY abusive toward her for all those years, I mean heck... he handled himself pretty well. They were fucking morons for not divorcing each other about 15 years sooner.