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05-02-2020, 11:17 AM
I explained a lil more in-depth here: https://www.sectual.com/thread-7050-post...l#pid56601
Of course if she's had children (more than one) since you've been together, she may just have a hard time dropping the weight. That is THE exception.
Otherwise?
She's unhappy, doesn't want to be with you anymore, and it would be best for everyone involved if the relationship ended.
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And you probably deserve it, but that's another topic.
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Hey I mean, sometimes it's hard to admit you don't love someone anymore.
See, she doesn't love you romantically...
But if you're not a complete piece of waste, she may still have sentimental feelings for you, which makes it confusing/hard to end things sometimes.
She just doesn't want to be with you...
*shrug*
And once things get to that point, they can never go back.
Once you see these signs in a relationship, it is over. How ever long you linger around like zombies is up to you I guess. Wasting your lives together at that point.
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(05-02-2020, 11:17 AM)Mister Obvious Wrote: I explained a lil more in-depth here: https://www.sectual.com/thread-7050-post...l#pid56601
(07-08-2018, 02:19 AM)Mister Obvious Wrote: The crux of it is, once people get together as a romantic couple and reproduce, their job together is basically done (unless they still desire to mix genetics and have more offspring from their particular ingredients)...
This means that the wife starts getting fat and treating you like shit, and vice versa (although I think it's more rare for the man to get fat and start treating the wife like shit, of course it does happen). If this situation persists with no solution (AKA divorce or just a resignation to the fate of being trapped in an unhappy marriage forever) then eventually the wife will either cheat (in which case she will probably lose weight), or she will settle for only making the husband's life totally fucking miserable in every possible capacity.
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There's more to it than that...
You get the idea.
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05-02-2020, 11:29 AM
Well actually she got fat from the meds for the mental then she got skinny again when off the mental meds but went more mental.
I preferred her chubby with less mental tbh. But then again im not saying I had no part in her mental cos im a stupid cunt at times.
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Damn babe, that´s one cynical way to look at marriage... but pretty funny too 
Now there´s several issues with this...what do you mean when you say fat? 10 pounds overweight? 30? Like what celebrity would be at the beginning of the fat spectrum?
I think up to 20 pounds overweight you´re still not fat, if you started from a normal weight.
If I was married and my wife got too fat to be attractive, I´d probably get her a a gym membership or buy her gym equipment if she doesn´t like public gyms, I´d get her a nutritionist, I´d get her a personal trainer, I´d get her in food therapy (does such a thing even exists? I think it should) and if she just refused to take any help and get herself to a normal healthy weight ...with the risk of coming across sexist, I don´t think I could be with her anymore.
It´s not even about looking fat, but having an unhealthy lifestyle... I just find that shit disgusting and won´t be able to cope living with it for too long.
But I would probably invest a good couple years into trying to help her overcome her weight problem before I would say ok this is enough for me.
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Well that's just it...
Everyone has their line in the sand.
It's all relative.
I find chubby chicks attractive, not FAT chicks, just normal to chubby range. I've talked about that before. It's just a personal thing.
Now how do I explain what's fat?
Well I think most people who are just normal and don't have retardedly strict standards know when that line has been crossed. It's kind of intuitive. You just "know" when someone's bordering on fat. It depends on body types and stuff like that too.
I can't give any pictorial examples.
But it's safe to say "fat" for a 5 ft. tall chick is a little different than what constitutes fatness in terms of weight for a chick who's 5'8" or 5'10" or something.
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I see what you mean.
Now I´m wondering if you have the same standard for men ....like if a man gets fat on you, would you still be with him? as in get fat and just will not lose the extra weight no matter how hard you try to help him?
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Now come on Ikhth, you know women don't care about mens' looks.
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(05-02-2020, 11:51 AM)Mister Obvious Wrote: But it's safe to say "fat" for a 5 ft. tall chick is a little different than what constitutes fatness in terms of weight for a chick who's 5'8" or 5'10" or something.
I think I remember seeing that the "normal" thing is something
like 5 ft. tall - 100lbs. Add 5lbs for every extra inch of height.
5' - 100lbs
5' 1" - 105lbs
5' 2" - 110lbs
5' 3" - 115lbs
5' 4" - 120lbs
5' 5" - 125lbs
So on and so forth.
A chick standing 5' 2" weighing 130lbs would probably be nice and thick
if she's built to carry a little extra weight. She wouldn't appear to be "fat".
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(05-02-2020, 01:40 PM)Mister Obvious Wrote: Now come on Ikhth, you know women don't care about mens' looks.
ROFL. That's a good one, MO! 
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(05-02-2020, 01:57 PM)somethingelseishere Wrote: I think I remember seeing that the "normal" thing is something
like 5 ft. tall - 100lbs. Add 5lbs for every extra inch of height.
5' - 100lbs
5' 1" - 105lbs
5' 2" - 110lbs
5' 3" - 115lbs
5' 4" - 120lbs
5' 5" - 125lbs
So on and so forth.
A chick standing 5' 2" weighing 130lbs would probably be nice and thick
if she's built to carry a little extra weight. She wouldn't appear to be "fat".
Dude...
This is a PERFECT explanation.
It makes total sense and seems totally accurate.
05-02-2020, 02:35 PM
Do you think a lot of women marry/hook up with dudes simply to get pregnant? And after the kid/kids are born the man is just superfluous? They no longer give a shit if the dude likes them or not so he can just FOAD! They probably never really liked the fucker to begin with. Just a sperm donor to load her monkey launcher.
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(05-02-2020, 02:35 PM)Guest Wrote: Do you think a lot of women marry/hook up with dudes simply to get pregnant? And after the kid/kids are born the man is just superfluous? They no longer give a shit if the dude likes them or not so he can just FOAD! They probably never really liked the fucker to begin with. Just a sperm donor to load her monkey launcher.
First of all, I love the way you phrased and worded this entire post...
I think we all need to take a damn moment to appreciate this.
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Fuck man!
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I don't know why women would become pregnant on purpose...
Unless the rumors about women reproducing just for welfare are actually true.
I really don't know as I don't have any connections with people who do that type of thing...
I don't know that many people and certainly don't personally know of any women who just have a ton of kids and feed off the government teat.
I'm sure it is true though.
Really unwise way to live since society could collapse at any time.
Anyway, I think usually women want to have a man's child because there are qualities they like about the man. They want to reproduce so they can have a part of him, but as far as actually having the man himself, it may just be too complicated to be worth it.
Sometimes you love people but you just can't be with them for whatever reason.
I've discussed this topic ad nauseam just like everything else...
"The reason you reproduce is because you want to see more of that person in the world"
https://www.sectual.com/thread-4163.html
That said, I can only see things from my perspective and my traits/qualities, I can't necessarily understand any other woman's point of view or opinion on it so who knows.
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(05-02-2020, 02:51 PM)Mister Obvious Wrote: "The reason you reproduce is because you want to see more of that person in the world"
https://www.sectual.com/thread-4163.html
(11-26-2017, 02:51 PM)Mister Obvious Wrote: On a romantic, two people who love each other la-de-da kind of fruity level, THAT is why you reproduce...
Because you want to see more of that other person in the world.
I've heard of people using reproduction as a tool of 'trapping' the other person, and that is an evil reason to reproduce with someone. Really bad shit there, wouldn't want to deal with that karma.
I've heard of women wanting to reproduce with a man because they love the man, but the love is essentially unreciprocated and they just want the child as a consolation prize... it's like a piece of the man that isn't going to leave them. It's psychologically warped, but yes it happens.
I've heard of people who 'accidentally' reproduced with somebody, and then because of the kid, they felt stuck in the situation... so instead of leaving, they ended up having MORE children with a person they don't even really love that much.
The way I see it, the only good reason to reproduce is because the other person has qualities you love and want to see replicated and put into the world. This can come in a lot of forms... but because of the selflessness implied in loving the other person's qualities/wanting to facilitate more of that in the world, I don't really think any of them can be bad.
So then I guess it depends on the quality of the people themselves. Take two people who are super warped, and instead of loving the other person's intelligence, they love the fact that they're really good at armed robbery or something. A desire to reproduce and introduce more of that quality in the world would be um, bad. But I bet there are some people out there crazy enough to actually want it.
That's where the duality of existence steps in... the light, the dark, the wrong, the right. That can't ever be helped. But at the core of it, when you're doing something 'selflessly', regardless of the duality aspect, in my opinion it's always going to be more respectable than something which is done out of selfishness.
For example, I can have a soft spot for a woman who reproduces with a man because he's a great bank robber and she wants to see more of that in the world...
Yes, it's fatally stupid. But it's more respectable than somebody who reproduces because they want to entrap the other person, for whatever reason.
You have men who want to trap women because they're obsessed with them, you have women who want to do the same thing to some men, or even worse, they want to use the kid to feed off the man re: child support etc. And I bet in the twisted history of all that is in this world, there has been a man who wanted to knock up a woman because she was wealthy and he wanted an easy ride.
I mean think about it... on this planet, there is NOTHING too warped, stupid, or twisted to happen.
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(05-02-2020, 02:51 PM)Mister Obvious Wrote: I don't know why women would become pregnant on purpose...
Unless the rumors about women reproducing just for welfare are actually true.
I don't understand how that would work.
It's not like you would get a bunch of money for the kids, it would be a total poverty way of living.
It'd be better to have no kids and work at McDonald's.
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