Stephi Lee

[Mister Obvious]

I'm glad Stephi made this video and cleared up some of the questions/concerns the audience had.

I feel bad for her with regards to the house and the belongings, the pets, etc.

That stuff is so hard and emotionally taxing when it comes to breakups.

I would just let it all go... let anybody who wanted it come and get it, leave it there, whatever is easiest and feels right.

As for the pets, I'd let him keep them, let anyone who wanted them come and take them, or if worse came to worse, take them to the humane society.

If that sounds cold, you gotta understand something... this is about FREEDOM. It's about lifting the chains off your heart and soul. It's about nurturing your life so that you can be strong. The outside world is illusory. At the end of the day, all that is real is the CORE of your being. The tiny little place inside you where your soul resides. Everything else around that core is merely a projection.

Learn the lessons that these situations were trying to teach you, be grateful for the experience, and just know that when you walk away, everything will be okay. Life WILL go on for anything/anyone left behind, the world will continue to turn, and things will be taken care of. They will.

People will make you think that you're "abandoning" or that you're "heartless"... but it takes two to tango. If her BF doesn't like the way she's handling things, he's free to do what he wants. If he's got a plan for the belongings, let him take them. If he's got a plan for pets, let him take them. If he can do it better... then let him.

All that matters is what's on paper. If the house was rented, just get out of that agreement and don't pay it anymore. Drive off into the sunset. Nothing is truly trapping us. We ARE free. But there are plenty of people and other associations that are gonna try their damnedest to make us believe we aren't. It's only true if we accept it.

Stephi should be safe and don't linger at an old matrix for too long... going back to take care of biz can be okay, but it's dangerous to be alone with someone in a situation where love is ending. Don't have sex, don't fucking feel bad for him/her, and don't linger. Get your loose ends tied up, and the name of the game is ALWAYS when you leave out of there, make it so that there is no true reason under the sun that you ever have to return.

If anything needs to be signed, remember you can have it emailed, print it out, sign it in front of a notary, mail it off. As for belongings, material things... they shouldn't even be acknowledged. Whatever happens to them, happens to them. As for pets, don't let 'em pull on your heart strings. You have to be free.

So much love to Stephi... she's such a wonderful chick, and she should always follow her heart, ALL her days.