03-31-2022, 02:51 PM
0:09 look at that bitchin' view. Would you rather have a relationship, or access to that bitchin' view with only your dog and your own damn self? I think the choice is easy.
0:18 I'm not gonna lie, it would take me .5 seconds to get over that relationship, especially if I had a bitchin' van AND a dog AND the money to travel, lmao! But Stephi is nicer than me.
0:52 yeah Florida is not the place to be for mobile living.
2:40 ew gross, snow. Neverrrrrrr.
7:00 so apparently now Stephi's workin' the pole! Well I didn't see that one comin' but if she enjoys this method of exercise then fine. I'm not even gonna let my imagination run with all the possibilities...
Like traveling pole dancer, moving from place to place every month or two.
Just nah... not even gonna think about it.
But my issue with the pole as a dancing apparatus has always been its limitations. It's a single fucking pole. Vertical, no less. What the hell am I supposed to do with that?
I've said before that the ideal ground-based dancing/aerial apparatus is a 'staple shaped' situation, where there's your standard stripper pole, but then there's a pole running across the top, and then another standard stripper pole on the other side. So it makes a sort of staple shape. I think the stripper poles could be shorter too, like they only have to be 3 ft. or so taller than your average bitch, so 8 ft. high. Then across the top, the horizontal pole should be like 12ft. and then the other stripper pole at the other end, 8 ft.
That's the ideal pole dancing setup/apparatus.
Lyra hoop is also a really cool rig.
I'd just be going for the gusto circus style if I was gonna pursue dancing on an apparatus.
10:35...
So first of all, there's a big difference between "LOVE" and "RELATIONSHIPS".
Love is not real... the only love that exists is the love that you have for your parents, the love they have for you, and the love you have for your closest family members, and the love they have for you.
For A LOT of people, they don't even have good families. So you can just scratch all that shit I mentioned above.
For them, the only love that exists is the love they have with their dog (or cat).
Romantic love is bullshit. It's only hormones. It's only a trick to get us to reproduce. There is literally nothing more to it than that.
So it's fine to be with your partner and give all of yourself to them and do for them every day and night and set yourself aside... for them, that's GREAT! But as soon as reality sets back in and you remember "Hey, I'm an actual person." And as soon as you start trying to pay attention to your own self again, that's when you're "neglecting them" or you "don't treat them like you used to."
One way to avoid that ever happening in the future is to go into a relationship making it clear that you're your own person and you're not gonna slave away for them on every level, day and night... they're gonna have to do their own shit, have their own life, and honestly, leave you the fuck alone when you wanna be left the fuck alone. If they're not cool with that, then you have a user and a co-dependent, annoying person who will just suck the life out of you til you're haggardly and then bitch at you for being haggardly and make it clear no one else will ever love your haggard ass, so you better just stick with them.
Are you starting to see how this works?
There's no such thing as love in the romantic sense... it's a lot of things, mostly chemical, but it's not love.
Relationships are two people using each other. And typically, one of them gets used A LOT more than the other does. One is typically the main user, and the other is the 'supply'.
10:52 in a perfect world, yeah, "love" would have a balance. "Relationships" would have a balance. But that's not reality. Reality is that relationships will always be a pain, they will always have at least one 'giant purple elephant' of a totally UNWANTED element in them. Most relationships have several giant unwanted problems that just fuck everything up on a daily basis.
What everyone is searching for is PEACE within THEMSELVES. Love and togetherness, with THEMSELVES. WHOLENESS, within themselves. No need for ANYONE or ANYTHING else. That's what everyone is looking for. And they always think they can find it in another person, when the irony is, they CAN NEVER find it anywhere besides WITHIN THEMSELVES.
So Stephi is understandably not sure what to do with the immense amount of freedom she has... that's okay. She will find direction. But what she shouldn't do is get fucked up in the meantime.
As far as the pole dancing goes... I mean, okay. That's cool and all. But it does bring along a certain element with it, just by the vibe of it alone. These things are real. Vibes and spiritual/energetic denominations are real.
She needs to avoid seedy people, places, and activities in general. Stay the hell away from drugs and drink. Stay away from ALL that shit. That's 100% the wrong direction to take in life and it's best to nip it in the bud.
Stephi's life is rad and she needs to see that... take it SLOW AND EASY with your freedom and don't listen to ANYONE'S advice or direction if you wouldn't want to TRADE LIVES WITH THEM.
That's key...
Look at somebody, listen to what they're saying, look around at where this is taking place...
And ask yourself, "Would I want to be this person, would I want to trade lives with them? Would I be okay with that?"
If the answer is no, DO NOT LISTEN TO THEM.
Do not do what they're doing. Do not follow them.
I just feel like Stephi is more confused than she really needs to be at the moment and it's a vulnerable time. She should take it slow and be CAREFUL. Do not listen to the wrong people, do not do anything illicit whatsoever.
