Fleeing the Plantation

[Mister Obvious]

I'm in no danger of getting involved with a previous abuser again.

Thank God for that...

Listen, this is probably a harsh thing for people to grasp, but I really think it's better to live under a bridge than to be subjected to a narcissist.

At a certain point, I absolutely would choose death if exposure to a narcissist was my only other choice.

Obviously that's... like, never really a situation people come up against, but I'm just saying. If it was, I'd choose to die.

Being homeless is a better fate than life with a narcissist.

The danger lies in unwittingly falling prey to a new one.

Damn right. These evil individuals (there are more in the world than anyone wants to believe) can spot an active or former victim of abuse (narcissistic variety included).

I don't bother with people... at all.

The only silver lining that exists in having experience with a narcissist is that you are forever cured of the naivety that lead you to trust people.

You leave these abusive situations resigned to the understanding that people are simply trash. There are no exceptions.

Notice how a narcissist will always call YOU selfish and say you're too self-focused... they don't want you to be free, they don't want you to have any power, they don't want you to put yourself first.

Because if you do, you'll realize what a shitty deal you're getting with them, and that means they will lose their supply.

I think a good rule of thumb is (using common sense of course) to do the exact opposite of anything a narcissist ever told you.

Everything discouraging they ever said to you was SOLELY to keep you down, to make you doubt yourself, to take away your power... NOT because it was true.

If they told you not to do something, do it. If they told you to do something, don't do it.

With a narcissist, everything is a trick and a slight of hand to make sure you NEVER get power, and if you're exposed to them for long enough, they want you to believe that you can't achieve, don't deserve, or will simply never have power.

They're by far the worst predators on this planet.