I feel like it's sad when people try to look sexy...

[Tribulation]

I feel that attractiveness matters too... but that if both people are real, then looks really are not a factor ... because you're only attracted to who you're attracted too... and if both people are together, there's obviously an attraction... if they are both being real that is. Like not looking for money, looks, etc... but just honestly love each other

Of course you are correct GG. But as beauty is in the eye of the beholder, so is sexy. It is impossible to debate what is beauty or sexy because each of us has our own preferences on the subject. I am sure there are multiple traits for each of us that we find sexy in another. The ultimate goal then being to find that someone that fills all of those traits. Unfortunately if beauty is the most preferred trait then we are destined to lose interest as life takes it's toll. As Trix suggested it is sad to attempt to be sexy because one is creating a false image of themselves to attract. So when there is a connection they have created a predetermined failed relationship as their facade will ultimately be exposed and their true selves exposed. Not only ending any hope for a lasting relationship due to lack of interest but also due to lack of trust. And should we mislead our perfect choice we set ourselves up for soulful disappointment once that trust has been breached. It is most important to just be ourselves and pray that the day will come when we will find that Honest love you speak of.