Did anybody else get really sad at bedtime as a kid?
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Nodding 
I remember being 5 or so and whenever it was time to go to bed, I would be really sad. I slept in a miniature bed in the same room as my parents until I was about 6 or so. I don't remember them ever giving me a hard time about my sleep time sadness, but I don't remember them addressing it either. The only thing that made me feel better was that we would fall asleep watching Bewitched or Star Trek or some other classic show and I'd forget about being sad that it was time to go to sleep.

Then when I'd spend the night with my grandma when I was 6 or 7, the same thing would happen. Night time would come, everyone would get ready for bed, and I would just be so sad. My grandma used to tell me I reminded her of her brother who would just cry and cry at night because he didn't want to go to sleep.

So I've thought about it and I think I know why kids do this...

It's because little kids don't think about yesterday. They don't think about tomorrow. They live completely immersed in the now. They don't think "I went to sleep lastnight, and I woke up this morning"... they don't see it that way. Instead, at the end of the day when it's bedtime, it almost seems like the end of life in general. It almost feels like a defeat. When you tell them they can't have something they want now, but maybe they can have it later... they don't understand that because they have no concept of later. They just know it's not NOW.

But they can understand the concept of 'later' better than they can understand concepts like 'yesterday'... because as a little kid, it's way too early to be able to see the patterns of life. You simply haven't lived enough days that you can remember to understand that you will wake up in the morning and it's not the end.

There's a lot of psychology behind it, and I admit... sometimes I still struggle with it.
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#2
i was more concerned with the colored orbs that would hover around my bed watching me.
rhombus will set you free.
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#3
That's a very interesting observation and certainly sounds plausible. I remember hating going to sleep at that age. But it was more that I could not get my mind to shut off. I would just lay there with thoughts racing through my mind for what seemed like forever.
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#4
(05-02-2021, 12:26 PM)genba Wrote: i was more concerned with the colored orbs that would hover around my bed watching me.

Well at least you didn't see Pennywise spiraling down from the smoke detector!!! AHHHHH!!!!!!!!
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(05-02-2021, 02:02 PM)Guest Wrote: That's a very interesting observation and certainly sounds plausible. I remember hating going to sleep at that age. But it was more that I could not get my mind to shut off. I would just lay there with thoughts racing through my mind for what seemed like forever.

Yeah a lot of kids throw a fit at bedtime because they want to keep playing, etc. but for me it was always something else.

Used to be, I had to ponder the entirety of life and existence before I fell asleep every night. In recent times this has eased up a little.
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#6
Dude just play with your cats or your cooter... all the dorty sneaky ladies do it
What you got is a troubled conscience . i dont do bad things so the Lord lets me sleep in peace
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(05-02-2021, 04:47 PM)Mister Obvious Wrote: Yeah a lot of kids throw a fit at bedtime because they want to keep playing, etc. but for me it was always something else.

Used to be, I had to ponder the entirety of life and existence before I fell asleep every night. In recent times this has eased up a little.

Did your parents read to you at all? One of my kids has trouble being alone in bed at night, that's the primary issue, is he feels removed from the feast of life, if you will. I find reading to him or making up a story or singing (when he was younger) or watching something with him seems to make it go away, even if he doesn't fall asleep while it's happening. He just needs one more connecting moment before letting go, or to know someone loves him and isn't ever going to forget about him.
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