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[Mister Obvious]

How was I being a douche? I was just teasing you about sleeping in late. Does that offend you?

You know that's offensive...

You are totally passive aggressive...

It makes me wanna ask you lots of psychologically probing questions.

[user124]

How was I being a douche? I was just teasing you about sleeping in late. Does that offend you?

You know that's offensive...

You are totally passive aggressive...

It makes me wanna ask you lots of psychologically probing questions.

Why is it offensive? Do you think it's offensive to everybody or just you?

Ask me anything you want. It won't bother me.

[user124]

Well, for what it's worth, I wasn't trying to deliberately antagonize you. I was just kidding around. I still don't understand how what I said was offensive. I'll take your word that you were offended and apologize. I'm sorry, Trix.

[Mister Obvious]

It's always gnarly asking about peoples' parents because they could be all dead and shit... you know, sensitive matters and stuff.

But I'm curious about your dad and how you would classify your relationship.

Did he treat you like shit? Was he an asshole? Was he super old when you were born?

[Guest]

Asking about people's parents? What the hell are you on about? I teased you for sleeping until 2 in the afternoon.

Even if I had asked about your parents, how in the hell am I supposed to know whether they're alive or dead? Most people would just say, "My parents are dead," if that was the case.

Yes, my dad was an alcoholic and abusive when I was a younger. He's mostly grown out of it now. I think he was around 20 when I was born, so no, he wasn't super old.

[Mister Obvious]

Yes, my dad was an alcoholic and abusive when I was a younger. He's mostly grown out of it now. I think he was around 20 when I was born, so no, he wasn't super old.

Okay, interesting...

I figured he was either totally abusive, or super old when you were born.

Thanks man.

[Guest]

So you're just going to ask me questions and not answer any of my questions, huh? Sounds like an interrogation. No thanks. I'm not into one-sided conversations. Hire a detective if you want to know more.

[Guest]

Your very words from the other day: If you don't tell people something's wrong, they'll assume everything is fine. When are you going to tell me what's bothering you?

[Mister Obvious]

There's nothing "bothering me"...

I'm sorry you wish there was something wrong.

[Penny Brain]

oh this is getting good , trix  might get probed finally  and we shall have  many learnings !

[Guest]

No, I don't wish something was wrong with you. I'm trying to understand your behavior. That's all.

Are your parents still alive? I can't imagine why that would be a touchy subject unless they had passed away.

[Crille]

[Mister Obvious]

No, I don't wish something was wrong with you. I'm trying to understand your behavior. That's all.

Are your parents still alive? I can't imagine why that would be a touchy subject unless they had passed away.

Yes, my parents are alive, and they have never been abusive.

[Guest]

Guys, please don't try to make a joke of this. We're trying to learn about each other here. Thank you.

[Guest]

Yes, my parents are alive, and they have never been abusive.

Why do you think it's insensitive to ask about someone's parents?

[Mister Obvious]

It's not insensitive...

But with you specifically, I entered this conversation assuming that you were totally abused as a child (by your father) and also realizing that it's entirely possible that you may not have been, and in fact perhaps your father was very nice to you and you had to suffer the trauma of watching him die in a terrible way (cancer, etc., who knows really?) maybe recently, or maybe not.

You see all the possibilities that could make me think maybe approaching the topic of your dad could be a touchy subject?

Because I was right about at least one thing... he did abuse you.

[Guest]

Is dredging up childhood abuse less insensitive than asking if someone's parents are still alive? The person may have painful memories in either case.

[Mister Obvious]

Well I mean there's a certain finality to death that is sorta extra sad, don't you think?

Talking to someone about their abusive parent(s) who are still alive is a little less potentially upsetting than talking to them about an abusive (or non-abusive) parent who is dead, simply because you can still go and talk to someone who is still alive... therefore there is always the possibility of further insight or proper closure as long as someone still lives.

[Guest]

Fair enough.

Why is it insensitive to tease someone about sleeping late? I don't see that there should be any negative emotions attached to that.

[Mister Obvious]

Why is it insensitive to tease someone about sleeping late? I don't see that there should be any negative emotions attached to that.

Teasing is synonymous with provocation which is the antithesis of sensitivity.