04-25-2021, 09:29 AM
I've talked about this before in a thread from 2019: https://www.sectual.com/thread-12969.html
But I want to expound on this concept, because it's not just my own life experience that I am pulling on and saying this is THE WAY to be...
No, I've come to this conclusion after looking at other people's lives, and considering what being a total narcissist could do to benefit them in the various situations that trouble them.
I've concluded that if you can't at least turn on/off your narcissistic self-interest at will, then life is going to be way shittier for you.
I think being able to turn on/off your narcissism (therefore, to be AWARE of your narcissistic tendencies, methods, etc.) is a crucial part of living effectively.
If you can't see the world any other way than through your narcissist lenses, then you're going to suffer in equal or even greater magnitude as those who have no narcissistic ability at all.
There is a happy medium. There is a balance. Even for narcissism, there's a balance.
You gotta find your personal narcissism sweet spot, but if all else fails, I recommend erring more on the side of excessive narcissism. It's better to have too much of it than too little or none at all.
What is the use of narcissism in your life? How can it help you? Well, because other people will try to make you feel shitty about yourself, when really, they're shitty and they suck.
Fact of the matter is... we all suck, to some degree. But should Bob be able to tell you that YOU suck unequivocally and are THE supreme suck, no suck above you? Bob should never be able to shove this BS lie down your throat... your narcissism should be blocking his ability to do so.
Don't take abuse from Bob or Nancy or any other fucking moron who sucks just as much as you do. Don't be a victim of Bob or Nancy. Instead of agreeing that you suck, combat the BS onslaught with your own thoughts of overinflated self-worth in order to drown out opposition.
You don't need to prove to Bob/Nancy that you DON'T suck... you need to make sure Bob/Nancy knows you don't give their opinion any consideration whatsoever by ignoring their attempts to belittle you, get energy from you, etc. and thus effectively starving them out.
Feed yourself, bulk up by transmuting criticism directed at you through the processing mechanism of your controlled narcissism... don't ever feed the opposition.
But I want to expound on this concept, because it's not just my own life experience that I am pulling on and saying this is THE WAY to be...
No, I've come to this conclusion after looking at other people's lives, and considering what being a total narcissist could do to benefit them in the various situations that trouble them.
I've concluded that if you can't at least turn on/off your narcissistic self-interest at will, then life is going to be way shittier for you.
I think being able to turn on/off your narcissism (therefore, to be AWARE of your narcissistic tendencies, methods, etc.) is a crucial part of living effectively.
If you can't see the world any other way than through your narcissist lenses, then you're going to suffer in equal or even greater magnitude as those who have no narcissistic ability at all.
There is a happy medium. There is a balance. Even for narcissism, there's a balance.
You gotta find your personal narcissism sweet spot, but if all else fails, I recommend erring more on the side of excessive narcissism. It's better to have too much of it than too little or none at all.
What is the use of narcissism in your life? How can it help you? Well, because other people will try to make you feel shitty about yourself, when really, they're shitty and they suck.
Fact of the matter is... we all suck, to some degree. But should Bob be able to tell you that YOU suck unequivocally and are THE supreme suck, no suck above you? Bob should never be able to shove this BS lie down your throat... your narcissism should be blocking his ability to do so.
Don't take abuse from Bob or Nancy or any other fucking moron who sucks just as much as you do. Don't be a victim of Bob or Nancy. Instead of agreeing that you suck, combat the BS onslaught with your own thoughts of overinflated self-worth in order to drown out opposition.
You don't need to prove to Bob/Nancy that you DON'T suck... you need to make sure Bob/Nancy knows you don't give their opinion any consideration whatsoever by ignoring their attempts to belittle you, get energy from you, etc. and thus effectively starving them out.
Feed yourself, bulk up by transmuting criticism directed at you through the processing mechanism of your controlled narcissism... don't ever feed the opposition.
