I decided to reject him? Here’s those assumptions again. So when he got fired for drug use and we lost our home. What should I have done? Taken the kids to slab city to live in a dirt hole. Cps would be up our asses so fast and the kids would be taken. Sorry kids always come first.
I’m letting him. Lol.
Ok goodnight.
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Well I'm sure you have reasons to dislike the guy or whatever... you've got your own problems etc. etc.
But as long as you're legally married, he's very much your problem and he's still your responsibility.
Are you gonna watch him waste away and die homeless on the fucking internet, or are you gonna do SOMETHING?
There must be something you can do...
He is not well, nor is he in a mental state to get himself out of this situation in a logical or effective way.
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Waiting for him to snap out of it or decide to come home could be to late. Like Trix said, he could end up in jail or dead in the desert if nothing is done. Not trying to bash anyone, just stating my point of view.
You can’t save people that don’t want to be saved. What exactly should I do? And why do you assume I haven’t already tried.
What should be done exactly?
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I don't know what you have the legal power to do...
He needs to be rounded up and committed...
To rehab or a mental hospital or something.
He's not okay...
He ran away amidst a mental breakdown and he feels like he can't come back, for whatever reason.
I know you don't like it when I assume, but I'm just gonna assume that you've DEMANDED he come home?
Not like that would work because after all, he has completely lost his mind at this point.
I really don't know what YOU should do...
But I know what needs to happen for HIM.
He needs help, physically and mentally.
There are always people in the comments section offering mindless bullshit like ‘bud’ and other dumb shit like alcohol...
But nobody is offering anything real to him, and I haven't seen anyone in ACTUAL contact with him ACKNOWLEDGING that he is NOT okay and that he needs help IMMEDIATELY.
Why is nobody doing that? Why is nobody saying that?
Why is nobody acknowledging that (God love him) he is LITERALLY A CRAZY PERSON wandering around homeless in the sweltering desert, AND he has a dog (somehow, WTF?!)...
He is deteriorating out there, it's a time sensitive situation...
He deserves better.
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(05-13-2018, 12:22 AM)Guest Wrote: You can’t save people that don’t want to be saved. What exactly should I do? And why do you assume I haven’t already tried.
In my state there's laws where if a loved one could be a danger to themselves action can be taken against them.
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I'm assuming that entails sometime type of mental evaluation hold.
So your only solution is for me to have him committed? For how long. A hold in Tx is 72hrs I believe. Then what? Then I’m his crazy wife who had him committed. A 3 day hold isn’t gonna do shit except make him hate me more.
What else?
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(05-13-2018, 12:38 AM)Guest Wrote: So your only solution is for me to have him committed? For how long. A hold in Tx is 72hrs I believe.
If you could actually get him BACK to the state of TEXAS that way, then I'd say yeah, that'd probably be a step in the right direction. Being in a legit BUILDING for a significant amount of time might result in some type of headchange, but I'm not a rocket scientist or anything.
(05-13-2018, 12:38 AM)Guest Wrote: A 3 day hold isn’t gonna do shit except make him hate me more.
See he doesn't hate you though, and you know that better than anyone...
You know he's obsessed with you probably since high school...
You were probably always that girl he wanted, then he finally got you.
You are totally idealized in his mind...
Yet you say stupid shit like that he hates you.
It's really just not right.
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(05-13-2018, 12:38 AM)Guest Wrote: So your only solution is for me to have him committed? For how long. A hold in Tx is 72hrs I believe. Then what? Then I’m his crazy wife who had him committed. A 3 day hold isn’t gonna do shit except make him hate me more.
What else?
Its 72hrs here too.you never know, he could snap out of this nonsense he's doing right now during that 72 hours. Its better than leaving him out there. No normal person takes off to the desert and wander to dig rocks broke. If commuting him doesn't help at least you tried vs. the possibility of something happening to him.
Y’all are just as delusional as he is if you think 3 days is gonna do anything except piss him the fuck off. And I get it, I understand. It’s grasping at straws. Believe me I do get it. But I am the zen fucking master of acceptance right now. So that’s what I suggest y’all need to find your acceptance. Sorry. Life sucks.
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Thing about it is...
You can tell by looking at him that his immune system is getting low...
He's had infection in his hands...
Feet are questionable too.
There are other signs that his immune system is low and he's under extreme stress.
Who knows what else he's got going on that he doesn't talk about or show.
Life is fragile...
People have died from a whole lot less than the crazy shit he's been doing.
Zane is meant for more...
For it to all come down to this and for this to be the end is simply not gonna work.
(05-13-2018, 12:51 AM)Trix Wrote: Thing about it is...
You can tell by looking at him that his immune system is getting low...
He's had infection in his hands...
Feet are questionable too.
There are other signs that his immune system is low and he's under extreme stress.
Who knows what else he's got going on that he doesn't talk about or show.
Life is fragile...
People have died from a whole lot less than the crazy shit he's been doing.
Zane is meant for more...
For it to all come down to this and for this to be the end is simply not gonna work.
Your preachin to the choir girl.
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(05-13-2018, 12:50 AM)Guest Wrote: Y’all are just as delusional as he is if you think 3 days is gonna do anything except piss him the fuck off. And I get it, I understand. It’s grasping at straws. Believe me I do get it. But I am the zen fucking master of acceptance right now. So that’s what I suggest y’all need to find your acceptance. Sorry. Life sucks.
I understand where you're coming from but trying something is better than doing nothing IMO. We cant tell you what to do but anything is better than what's going on right now.
I think maybe you forget or don’t quite understand what stage 4 breast cancer is. It’s ok most ppl don’t, they think hey you can cut off your boobs get some chemo-done. Let me clarify. I have bone mets which means my cancer has spread to my bones, like all of my bones. The chemo I get is maintenance. We focus on my quality of life right now. My neck is fractured, my spine is fractured in multiple spots. I’m fatigued 100% of my day everyday. I was severely anemic and almost had to have a blood transfusion but luckily my numbers are going back up. I’m dizzy. I get nauseous and will randomly dry heave in public. I can walk now thanks to pain drugs, I couldn’t before. I will die in a year maybe 2 if I’m lucky. And I get the wonderful stress of all this. And worrying will my kids lose both their parents. They are the victims of all this stupid cancer and bullshit. They are so smart and beautiful and funny, like for real they are way more smart and beautiful than any of your kids. Just kidding (kinda). They deserve so much more.
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Nah it’s true, they are beautiful kids.
We know about your struggles...
All anyone is saying is that Zane literally lost his mind.
He went nuts and he still hasn’t come back...
I don’t look at what he did as abandonment anymore.
I look at it for what it is...
It’s a man who lost his mind and now he’s just wandering around.
Digging for rocks, too. That’s icing on the cake.
A crazy dude digging around in the desert, wasting away.
It’s important to see the situation for what it is. There’s no solution in that.
But it’s better than being dense enough (like some of the viewers) to think that Zane is okay right now and he’s just method acting or something and the whole thing is made up.
After you study the Zane saga for a while, it becomes abundantly clear what’s going on here.
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Wow, Zane got hooked the hell up with a nice dinner and a shower, did some laundry and everything.
Good...
Now that just needs to be every single day of his life.
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(05-13-2018, 09:54 PM)Trix Wrote:
Wow, Zane got hooked the hell up with a nice dinner and a shower, did some laundry and everything.
Good...
Now that just needs to be every single day of his life.
Zane has a hard history of getting big black dongs up his pooter in the showers in jail. Its great to see how his life has worked out. What a champion. I will post him some food vouchers.
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