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Love is the worst human construct. The most corruptible, and exploited emotion. It is an intoxicating and indulgent thing. New love is sublime. New. Promising. Is the downward spiral worth the effort? I genuinely ask this forum honestly. I often weight the pros and cons. There is NOTHING like being held and told someone will never leave. News flash....it is inevitable. Relationships stunt personal growth. Either someone is holding you back,or even worse, you are the dead weight. When i meet someone i am in to, i am haunted by the thought of how bad it will hurt when this person is washing down my freshly ripped out heart with a white claw, heading to girls night for 2 dollar mojitos with her fuck me outfit on. Swiping right on tender,when i finish my fifth of jim beam listening to keith Whitley. Is love worth it? I wonder how others feel. I went on a month long back packing trip after watching my grampa take his last breath. His wife or 60 years,my mema, got caught in traffic and was not there. They bulit a castle on the sand. A magnificent american dream,washed away by the tides of the universe. She is left standing on the beach,confused in early dementia, not knowing where her partner of 60 years is. All you need is love. Well,ask John Lennon how that story ended. Love can be the warmest sunset. Or the darkest black hole. Its a dangerous substance. I feel like firing off some knuckle children and avoiding the whole painful disappointment.may be a viable option
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I'm sorry that you've had the experiences both personally and vicariously that have inspired you to share this poignant post.
Unfortunately, I don't really have any positive stuff to say about the concept of romantic love.
I've discussed it quite a bit though...
Here's the most recent post I made on the general topic of love:
http://www.sectual.com/thread-1591-post-...l#pid93504
(06-29-2019, 09:38 PM)Mister Obvious Wrote: I've always said the only "real" love is familial love... and that romantic love is just lust, til it's not anymore, then it's just friendship (if you ever even liked each other as friends to begin with).
If you have the love feeling for animals, that's all you need... animals are better than humans in every capacity, especially for providing happiness, entertainment, companionship, etc. We don't need anything else.
And animals (pets) are a luxury.
All you really need is to love yourself... if you don't, good luck.
Here are some threads about it:
"Romantic love isn't about a man and woman being together forever"
http://www.sectual.com/thread-4004.html
"Self-preservation tactics in relationships"
http://www.sectual.com/thread-2359.html
"I don't really know why love is so important to people"
http://www.sectual.com/thread-968.html
TL;DR...
"Love" is bait, and its role is solely for the purpose of reproduction.
We are programmed to make more humans...
This is how we are tricked into doing so.
It's ALL about reproduction...
There is no other purpose.
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The feelings we have when romantic love doesn't work out are almost certainly linked to the subconscious (body mind) being angry that the attempt to reproduce was unsuccessful.
As far as people who HAVE reproduced together, if there's any sadness when they part it's because they had built some type of security together, the loss of which is lamented by the subconscious/body mind... because resources/security are needed to properly care for offspring. If both parties are still of childbearing age, the hurt feelings upon dissolution of the relationship may be due to the security being thwarted, AND the fact that no further progeny will be made with that trusted and reputable source.
If beyond childbearing years...
(11-10-2018, 02:48 PM)Mister Obvious Wrote: The desire for reproduction is so deeply programmed into us that even after reproductive years, some people still want to have sex.
Like zombies at the mall on Dawn of the Dead...
http://www.sectual.com/thread-9764-post-...l#pid74602
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Eat. Shit. Breed. Repeat. I totally agree. This is definitely no a sad post.we have to earn our scars, internal being the hardest. Its just odd when people are like, wow, how are you single!??. Well, because its the easiest way to be lol
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Thats why i posted here. I knew you would drop some some perspective MO. Perspective is easy to lose, but takes effort to regain
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You're a good guy Bump...
And it's true...
Being alone, at least for a considerable amount of time is very important to self-development.
People who don't take the time to be alone, integrate their experiences, know themselves...
Well they often suffer for it. They're terrified to be alone, they can't face themselves.
One of the greatest gifts you can ever receive in life can be given to you, BY you...
The gift of self-acceptance, the love of yourself, the DESIRE for yourself.
You have to WANT you. YOU have to be your best friend and your lover.
If you want something done right... you gotta do it yourself.
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Really my heart aches for those who depend on that. They cannot "hike their own hike" in life. I wonder, what is worse..going your own way or regretting the way you went to appease social acceptance. Its hard to find a forum to raise the questions. Perception is so subjective
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07-31-2019, 01:40 AM
I HAD TO.
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I made that thread title hoping this would be posted. Yeahhhhhhh lol
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I actually had to listen to the song. Fucking haddaway. Didnt know how much i needed that lol
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07-31-2019, 02:09 AM
It's kind of amazing isn't it??
LMFAO.
It's like the more time that goes by, the better 90s songs get...
Says a lot about the world we live in today.
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Fuckin A!! Thats real spill holyfield,MO!
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